I'm sure some more driving and tinkering with the system will pay off for ya. The most important things to remember with these features is that 1) they don't replace your need to pay attention as if you were driving without the systems and 2) that you find the most comfortable way to use them to augment your particular driving style. That #2 looks different for everyone based on individual preferences and comfort with the features.I get what you're saying. I am not trusting it enough I'm sure. I did have an instance early on though that made me trust it less. Was doing 70 on the freeway, long sweeping turn, it entered the turn ok, but halfway through it quit, and nearly ran me in to a semi right next to me. I wasn't grasping the wheel much at all, wanting to see how it would do, and it just gave up. Scared me quite a bit.
The stop and go stuff is FANTASTIC in this van. I just drove through Atlanta on a road trip, and for 40 minutes I was in stop and go traffic, and never made an input to the gas, brake or wheel! Just rested my hand on the bottom and the van did the rest! It was remarkably relaxing in what could have been a stress inducing crawl.
I do however 100% agree with you both on the stop and go stuff. My biggest problem with highway driving is the stop and go with construction or accident traffic. I can do 90 on the interstate for hours on end with no fatigue but the stop and go stuff just straight up takes the wind out of my sails. This system makes it such a breeze and it really just feels like a break from the highway driving to rest up while the van does its thing, with me only occasionally having to press the cruise control "RES" button to resume driving if the traffic came to a complete stop. It really changed the driving dynamic of a road trip for me, in a very positive way.